A French Lover named Karem

In Australia and the US, we talk of French lovers as the ultimate lovers. They are passionate and good lovers that could transport anyone to the seventh sky (in French, septieme ciel). They may also be unfaithful which only makes them even more exciting. When I first came to Paris I wanted nothing more than a real authentic French lover. He would come in the afternoon after work with his ‘baise en ville’ (literal transaltion: fuck in town, non literal: a small bag where you could put the necessary for a quick tryst in an afternoon in town) and make love non stop until dinner time (hence the name cinq à sept lovers….lovers between 5 and 7 pm literally) before going back to his proper bourgeois wife. I would be left on the floor of my apartment in the fading light of Paris, bruised and blued but nonetheless with a smile and a fulfilled look in my eyes.

Well, that has happened indeed, though it has not left with quite with the fulfilled look in my eyes or an idiotic smile that indicates whatever happened just before has left me mushy brained. Interestingly, French men do not really believe in the stereotype that others have of them. Sure they know of it but men that I have met chortle at the idea. And even more interesting, in France the stereotype of good lovers actually are accorded to Arabs and Blacks. And contrary to French men, Arab men I know do know of this stereotype and proudly admit that it applies to them! The stereotype of Arab men is that they are CHAUD (literally, Hot. People will also say CHAUD LAPIN which literally stands for hot rabbit, a colloquial expression for someone who likes sex a lot) and always looking for sex, emotional and with admirable endurance. For Blacks, well, as in the US, they are supposed to be more generously hung than everyone else.

So, after a number of years in France, my French lovers tend to be named Karem and Samba rather than Jean-Marc or Francois….So, if you call and I don't respond, it might very well be that I was lying on the floor crossed eyed murmuring something in arabic or wolof.

Note:
If you're a gay male and you wish to make friends with gay Black and Arab French, there is a 'soirée' BBB (for Black Blanc Beur : Black, White and Arab...Beur is a slang for Arab French...literally it means butter of course)at Bus Palladium in Pigalle (Sunday evening tea dance).